First 5 days after you've been sacked in the City....so what next?
So the corporate storm clouds have swept in, deposited bad news and moved on, no doubt leaving you feeling slack jawed and round shouldered. If it is not you then there is a strong chance it might be your partner or a close relative. Research from Met Life revealed that over two fifths (41%) of employees have been made redundant during their working life.
From working with many different professionals in London, proactively supporting them to get to their next professional chapter, we observe that it is easy for people to drop into common thinking errors which can be fatal in any future job search and the first five days can be vital in forming good habits, or potentially very damaging ones.
Common thinking errors are:
- Catastrophising the situation of job loss. The world appears to have just ended.
- Magical thinking. Rushing to your CV and hastily sending it out to all and sundry expecting an immediate response.
- Internal bargaining - “If only I had done this or that or not spoken to Jim like that and this would never have happened.”
This is all very common behaviour and actually will work to sabotage your future efforts in the professional job market however well meaning your attempts are and however golden the opportunities which are placed in your way.
Why does this happen in any case?
Involuntary job loss stands there with divorce, bereavement and major life threatening illness. The link to bereavement is an obvious one. A major cut has been made in your life and the immediate certainties (monthly salary slip, caffe lattes at 8 am, office banter, long meetings, beers at 7, the bonus discussions) have been cut off.
Psychologically losing your job is a major shock event and every psychologist acknowledges that impact. Cognitive and positive psychologists also go a step further and evidence that those who use this opportunity to take stock in a positive and considered way make markedly faster progress in the recovery path after such an event. They would also say that building small day-by-day goals into your plan will move you towards a quicker and more natural acceptance of the situation. As you read these words, this may seem like mission impossible however investing time in this can pay dividends later in the process.
If these thinking errors in the after math of redundancy sound painfully familiar then please email us via firstname.lastname@example.org to learn how we will be able to help you materially in life after redundancy.
We will help you with asking what next and not why me? We assist you with effective CV writing and interview technique which gets you into the best short-lists and a great future.
By Sarah Dudney